We have all been there- your schedule is so tight on Saturday, you absolutely CANNOT afford any delays- no waking up late, snail pace traffic, smudged nails at the nail salon, and definitely no spending 5 hours at the hair salon for your hair do. You arrive on time to your beauty destination. You have the “side-eye” in the anticipation of the mess that is about to pop off–because you know it’s coming. After nodding to your stylist to mark your presence, you sit in the waiting area. Never mind that there are 4 other women ahead of you. You are completely disillusioned that you will get in that chair on time TODAY.
After about 30 minutes you pick up the Hype Hair magazine that is about 4 years old. As a matter of fact, you saw the same one last month while sitting in the exact same chair. She calls you to the chair and you move like lighting to sit. She say “What you getting done today?” In your head, you are in disbelief because when you made your appointment, you specifically told the receptionist your service. That is neither here nor there so you remind her only to be ushered to the wash area where you will inevitably ruin your brand new shirt. Your head is now covered with the dreaded plastic baggie and you are placed under a dryer for a “deep conditioning” treatment which usually is no better that the stuff you can find at any beauty supply store. By the way, since when is a deep conditioning treatment 45 min? Ladies, you pretty much know the ending of this story. You leave pissed and your schedule is completely obliterated.
If this happens to you….. it is time to deal with this ‘team too much’ stylist! Here are some tips to deal with a difficult stylist:
-say what you mean and mean what you say. The 1st offense is always a very important one. For lack of a better comparison, let’s compare your stylist to a brand new puppy. You must attack the problem head on. The minute she messes up, cut up right away….but in a nice way. Think of our white girlfriends….they are the best at telling you off without telling you off
-tell her what you expect always. Ask her if she has any issue with respecting your time or your feedback? You must ask her just like that. If she gets uncomfortable, you know you may have a problem.
-plant seeds before-hand. If you know you have a big event coming up, print out pictures, bring them to the salon weeks ahead of time. Have her look at the picture while she is doing your hair. Annoy the heck out of her so by the time the big day comes around, she knows you will blow a gasket she ruins your day with a terrible style or spending too much time there.
-If this is a new stylist, give her a nice fat tip the first few visits. Hopefully, this will put you on her internal VIP list.
-Be a DIVA….Diva’s always get what they want. Establish yourself as the grand DIVA in the beginning. Know what you want, when you want it, and how you want it.
-If all else fails, throw her the DEUCE and find another stylist! Remember, when they are bad already, it will probably be really difficult to breaking them into new habits. Your best bet is to find someone new and tell everybody and their mama how bad your previous stylist was.